Storytime: How Jason & I first meet!


I don’t think it was love at first sight with Jason, maybe the second time around it was though, but either way, I am so happy to have him in my life because he truly makes me a better and happier person.

But before I tell you how I meet my boyfriend let me backtrack to March 2016…

I was already in a relationship with someone for over a year a half and we were extremely rocky.  It was mentally exhausting being in a relationship with this person, working 20-30 hours a week and being a full-time student. I didn’t know what I wanted or what I wanted to do, so I stuck around and put up with him and tried to make it work, we both tried really hard.

I was in a journalism class at the time and did an interview with a friend of mine, Dani who is a psychic medium. My professor loved the story of my friend but suggested I got her mother’s perspective on her daughter’s abilities. Dani and I went to her mother’s house, Lucy, where I continue my interview. Lucy also has the gift and the ability to connect with spirits that have crossed over and can predict someone’s future.

We sat there chatting away, then she looks at me and says,

“Whose the person that names begin with the letter K”

I was in complete shock, I looked at Dani and she said, “I swear I didn’t tell her anything”.

That’s my boyfriend, who has been giving me problems. His name begins with the letter K.

Lucy goes on to tell me that, I am not going to end up with him. He isn’t right for me.

This is what I needed to hear too, but I was struggling in that relationship I needed someone to tell me what we were not right for each other.

Me being completely accepting of this information, I asked: “Okay well who am I going to be with?”

Lucy looks at me dead in the eyes and says, “You are going to end up with someone whose name begins with the letter J. But I don’t know if this is someone from your past, someone you know in the present or when you are going to meet them. But his name begins with the letter J.”

I took a deep breath and thought I honestly don’t know anyone that I can be connected to with the letter J. I left Lucy’s house with a lot on my mind, and I honestly felt completely lost. Getting a reading from a medium can be extremely overwhelming, and I know from experience of both sides getting a reading and giving one. It’s a lot to take in and understand.

I continued my relationship with K, and sort of dismissed what Lucy had told me. I didn’t want K to know what she had said about us because it would only have started more problems.

About a month later I was working late in my office because I was a promoter for this big concert at the venue I used to work at. It was honestly like any other day for me, K and I were doing alright, and I still haven’t thought much about what Lucy had told me. It was roughly about an hour before doors opened for the concert, and got up to stretch and I look out my window and I see someone coming through the back door, and I think to myself “Who’s trying to sneak into this hip-hop concert?”

I go downstairs into the kitchen and there he is, long hair pushed back under his backward hat, plugs in ears and just the right amount of beard, drinking a milkshake, starting to prep for the night. Then it hit me, oh he must work here, I just haven’t met him yet.

I introduced myself to him, he introduced himself to me. We chatted for a moment about where we’re both from, how I long I have been working at the venue and what I do for my job and he told me he’s only been there for about two months.

I even asked him, if he was in a band because he looks so familiar as if I knew him or meet him at some point in my life. My first impression of him was that he was a nice guy, I thought his hair, plugs, and tattoos are cool. That night I was working the artist’s merch table and the doors for the venue, but when it calmed down he came out to talk to me. We chatted a little bit more about tattoos, music and such and went our separate ways at the end of the night.

Two months go by and it’s June, my semester of college is coming to an end, I was able to physically go to work a lot more and stay a lot longer. I was in the office and I stayed a little late for the concert that was going to happen that night because a friend of mine was telling me she was going to be there.

I got into the kitchen and there he is prepping for the night.

I said “Hey! I know you!” and he said, “Yeah I know you too! You’re Tory right?”

Honestly, super impressed he remember my name after not seeing me for two months, (brownie points for that!) but I felt embarrassed because I completely forgot his. I admitted to him that I forgot his name and he laughed it off. But there was something special about meeting him for the second time, it’s hard for me to describe it.

I had these overwhelming feelings of fate in the sense that I was supposed to meet him. Even with our co-workers in the kitchen trying to get that night ready,  there was a connection there and you can just feel the spark between us.

I ended leaving twenty minutes later and didn’t get a moment to say goodbye to him because the kitchen was too chaotic. I did what any other girl would do once I got home, busted open up my laptop and starting to Facebook search him! I must have spent a solid thirty minutes trying to find him, I eventually gave up.

A little after midnight, I got a friend request from him and I remember saying “Who the hell is Jason?” I click on his profile, and my jaw dropped. Omg, it was him, but how did he find me?

Apparently, when I left the kitchen Jason made a comment about me saying, “Tory’s cute, what’s her deal?” a co-worker of mine who was like my big sister there said, “She has a boyfriend, but he sucks, you should try and talk to her”. Thanks, big sis, I owe you one!

I was waiting for Jason to message me and he never did. Mind you I am still in a relationship with someone, this was a very confusing time for me. I was extremely emotional and didn’t know what to do or how to put my feelings in check. I didn’t think Jason was going to be my escape from that emotionally abusive relationship I was in but I did think that he and I would be really great friends.

So I messaged him one day. I sent him a gif of a toast popping out of a toaster saying, “Hi!” and waving. Score one for Tory for making the first move to our relationship! Ironically the moment I sent him the gif, he was just talking about me to his friends and how he really liked me but I had a boyfriend. He and I became quick friends, he even missed a party to come to a concert that I was promoting just to hang out with me.

It was early July, just a few days before my birthday, he told me he was in charge of the kitchen that night. I set myself up so I can help out at the show, but really I just wanted to hang out with him. The night ended, he walked me to my car, we hugged goodbye, and I word vomited, “You like me, don’t you?” His face was priceless, and his response was “maybe”. As if, if he said “yes” he would get into trouble.

This is what I needed to hear, and that’s when I knew I had to break up with my boyfriend the next day and that Jason was right for me, just like what Lucy told me. Here we are April 15, 2018, two years on this day we meet for the first time, and now it’s been over a year and a half later, in a positive, healthy, loving relationship.



Tory Lava

Moral Of The Story: it’s OKAY to walk away from a relationship if you are unhappy, and it’s unhealthy. It’s OKAY to start something new with someone. Jason is truly a blessing in my eyes, if it wasn’t for him I don’t know where I would be with that other person.

***All the names in the story have been changed to help keep their identities protected***

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